Survivor is a funny word. It has this
ring to it that implies all you need to do is earn the title and
suddenly everything is OK.
My husband, Brian, is an easy going guy. Not much fazes him.
would go as far to say that even when he was diagnosed with cancer he was practical and succumb to the
fact that most likely… he had no control of his destiny.
However, all bets were off once Brian became a "survivor". You see, when you have any major hardship happen to you, your life
becomes a fish bowl.
At first everyone cheers as you swim in
and out of that tiny plastic castle. You feel special.
People enjoy nurturing you. They never forget to feed you or change
Then slowly the novelty wears off…
You wake up one morning to find that the world is no longer
cheering. Instead, everyone is just staring. So you feel depressed.
If you had cancer; you might feel judged on your appearance.
"Should you be eating that?"
If you were mourning; you might feel people are judging
you on your ability to move on. "Is she actually dating?" "
If you were broke; you might feel people judging you
when you do something nice for yourself. "Did you buy a new dress?"
As your bowl swirls with everyone's opinions you wake up one morning to find your water cloudy. You are starving because no one has fed you in weeks. And you start to wonder… "Is everyone just waiting for the morning they find me belly up in
So what happened? You overcame insurmountable
obstacles to earn the title of survivor. I mean you did the
unthinkable; you beat cancer, you clawed your way out of debt, you
overcame the loss of a loved one, you got through a divorce, you lost
100 pounds now… YOU'RE looking at a toilet bowl anticipating someone will flush you!?!?!??!?
I would love to say, "People suck that is what happened!"
However, then I would have to throw out my whole "Life into
Lemonade" stick and hit the bottle.
Instead, lets make lemonade. (you can add vodka later if you wish)
Everyone has a light inside and I believe people, like moths, are attracted to "light." Some people have to climb mountains and swim oceans because it is a necessary part of their journey. Their light shines outward, so others can be guided. It is like a gigantic flashlight! Your life is meant to be shared with the world!
However, when we believe
we are defined by what "this life" has put us through
instead of who we are inside…moths start eating our clothes. We allow them to poke holes in our truth and our flashlights start to dim.
So what do you do????? Well, first it's time to change the batteries in your flashlight:) You need to take a step back and look at WHO you
are asking to clean your fish bowl.
My guess is if they are
questioning your candy bar, they just ate two. If they are judging
how you spend money, they have a fear of being broke. If they are
smack talking your ability to laugh or love, they wish they could do
Next eat a twinkie if you feel like it. Then kindly tell them you appreciate their concern but you are a
survivor and you know how to do just that.
Finally, ask them,
"What is really up your butt?" Something is most likely bugging them and you can
shine some light on how they too, can learn to be a survivor:)
Now…speaking of "Asses" and "Survivors" this month is Colon
Cancer Awareness month!! WHOOO HOO! So in the spirit of
shining lights up butts….we have asked some of our fabulous celebrity friends to support the cause!
We are happy to support our buddies at the Colon Cancer Alliance .
We are donating a portion of every Solas bag purchased to raise
awareness for this cause! Check out www.solasfashion.com
and listen to Stan!!!!!
Now go buy a purse that will light up just like you! www.solasfashion.com
*Lifein2lemonade is edited by Ryan Howard