"3wellness" Posts

SEE TRUE SUCCESS

   Having breakfast, with my friend Mike Veny, we were laughing over eggs at all the ridiculous obstacles we’ve experienced in our lives.  I told Mike I
believe a bumpier ride in life helps you achieve true success, as opposed to perceived success. Upon Mike’s insistence, I decided to dedicate a blog to the subject. Mike, this one’s for you.

   We live in a voyeuristic world where too much of our time
is eaten up by perceived success.  It chips away at our self esteem and, suddenly, our achievements are no longer good enough. 


  When I started my handbag company, Solas, in 2004 I had one thing on my mind,
"Oprah".   I believed in order to be considered a success, I had to be
on her show.
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I literally had a picture of Oprah in my bedroom. As you see, she is welcoming me with open arms.
My first big press hit was The Today Show.  Katie Couric said, "My friend Kara invented these bags" and my mom was elated! 
If I had Facebook back then, I am sure I would have received 100
"likes" from high school friends who would have thought I was really
cool. 

 The reality was, I only sold 8 bags from that segment.   When a mutual friend of Katie's and I found out I was going to be on The Today Show, she rang her up in hopes that Katie would give us a bigger "shout out". 

   
 In the fun banter of Matt jabbing at Katie, playfully, for saying I was her "friend", Cojo never mentioned where to buy my bags. However, my mom called everyone she knew to say that Katie said my name.

 As time went on, Solas graced the pages of People, Us Weekly, In Touch
etc…  I was on Extra, E! News, Fox, but not Oprah!!!!!  We were
selling thousands and thousands of bags, but I never truly celebrated because the "mothership" refused to answer my calls.  Ok, that's a lie. I might have had a glass of Champagne or two (or three, lol,) but the next day I would always wake up to this little voice in my head saying, "It's not good enough. You're not good enough." 
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This pic is for the .10 percent of you who didn't know this was the "mothership".
The year Entrepreneur magazine considered doing a feature about me, Solas was finally considered for Oprah's Favorite Things. The article happened. Oprah didn't.  Clearly, I was a loser.  In the end, the closest I ever got to Oprah was when I, embarrassingly, did the "Oprah ugly cry" during my documentary when I went from a potential deal with HSN and Dillards… to almost having to claim bankruptcy.
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Come on! You have all done it… you just weren't stupid enough to have the cameras rolling.
My Oprah obsessed journey taught me there are two sides to
the coin of success.  The head is how the world interprets your
achievements and your attachment to that perception. The tail is your
heart string. It is your calling and it’s driven by your soul, not
others'. The key to happiness is finding a way for both sides to live
harmoniously.  I missed the boat on a few things, those years I was chasing
the big "O". First of all, the Katie Couric moment was not a failure. 
My soul knew it was not about selling bags it, was about giving me
credibility so I could achieve my dreams.  Plus, my soul really likes
making my mom happy! 

My head made it a failure by tying it to money. Even when I did start to achieve monetary success, I
never saw myself as successful. So my tail side said, "Grrrlll didn't
you learn anything?!?!? I'm about to wake your ass up!" (Cut to Oprah
ugly cry and having to start all over.)
    Before I wrote this article I asked my friends, "What is the
meaning of success?"  Some people had very specific goals in mind.
However, universally, people wrote about balance.  Whether it was
juggling motherhood and career or work and spirituality, everyone seemed
to want to balance life's mishaps with life's achievements. 
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I thought it would be fun to post some of the comments as a reminder to all of us to stay focused on real success.
I think at the core we all know about the two sides of the
coin. We struggle with it. We feel guilty to admit we have a head side
that cares about perception. We wish we always came up tails and lived
our lives 100% driven by our hearts.  I am here to say
both sides are OK.  In fact, you need that balance to achieve happiness. 
Just make sure your perception of things isn't clouded. It's OK to have
lofty goals or aspirations in life. It's OK to be aware of what your
neighbor or children or the world thinks of you, just don't let
it guide you. Keep it in your peripheral vision and make sure you are
always checking in with the "man in the mirror." (or should I say goddess?)
Love and Light- YOU ARE A SUCCESS!!!
KK
Make sure to follow me at @lifebykk on twitter for daily inspiration!

STEP UP TO THE PLATE… FOR BOSTON

Once again, the hustle and bustle of an American work day was brought to a grinding halt by another tragedy.  A day
that should be filled with joy and celebration was literally brought to
its knees by a senseless act of cowardliness. There are very few
traditions left in our culture that bring out the spirit of brotherhood
and humanity, The Boston Marathon is one of those traditions. 

 

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Carlos Arredondo carrying a bloodied US flag at the scene of the Boston Marathon explosions. Photograph: Darren Mccollester/Getty Images

I think we all knew on September 11, 2001 that our lives were changed
forever but I don't think any of us fathomed how deep the penetration
of violence would now be embedded in our culture.  At first we all
banned together. We flew flags. We introduced ourselves to our
neighbors.  We prayed for strangers.  As time went on, however, we
locked our doors.  We closed our shades. We tuned into CNN.  

We drifted farther and farther away from our fellow Americans slowly becoming desensitized to Anthrax scares, heighten security alerts, and
images of war.  Little did we know the score had just become 2 points Terrorist, 0 America.  Americans were oblivious to the fact the terrorists had just turned our living
rooms into a battle field without using a gun.  We were, however, acutely
aware of the media and our quest for justice. We watched the news
religiously.  We spent money and resources to find whoever was
responsible because we thought killing the source of evil
would wash America clean and restore normality.

When I was a kid life certainly was not perfect.  The country had a long
ways to grow in respect and support of equal rights for all Americans.  I am proud to say I have seen that change in my lifetime. However, my school was never a war
zone. My yard was my utopia. And I spent more time interacting with my
neighbors and family than I did a video game.  I felt loved by my
community. I felt safe. My teachers had the resources and support to nurture my
growth.   I honestly remember being excited to say the Pledge Of Allegiance every morning. I would  jump up and down waving my hand in hopes of the
teacher choosing me to lead it. There was support in our
community. People were not only willing to help foster the future of the
children but when something did happen, it happened to all of us, as
Americans.

 

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A simpler time with my mom as a child.

Now as mass shooting after mass shooting occurs we spend hours
debating on television as to where to point the finger.  The
mother?  The teacher?  The law?  Anything to deflect a sense of
responsibility as a community. As more places become unsafe for us to congregate and love one another we deny we are drifting away into a world
where we have abandoned our children and each other.  We no longer need the terrorist to create terror, the seed was
planted and we watered it.  

We find ourselves once again looking for one source of evil to pinpoint the
violent act on so we can wash ourselves clean and move on with our day.
Terrorist 3,  America 0. 

The Boston Marathon had thousands of charity runner participants. People much like myself who run to raise awareness and
money for diseases like Cancer.  And a half a million people lined the
streets to cheer on all the runners.  Many of the participants
were complete strangers to the supporters yet they cheered and yelled,
"You can do it!"  They were selflessly supporting one another to show the younger generation and the world that love is limitless.

Someone or some group tried to destroy that example of community.  As we
see the  injury and casuality reports,  I know it seems impossible to
overcome the anger and not seek revenge. I want justice like we all do.  But if we lose sight of our neighbor I believe we
are doing a disservice to every hero involved.

So what do we do?  How do we turn such soar lemons into lemonade? It
won't be easy but we
could start by doing something different to really start fighting back.  I say we turn off our TVs and ipads and instead find time to volunteer in our community.
If that is not possible, how about we just simply display a random
act of kindness to a stranger everyday this week.   Introduce yourself to that neighbor you have never met or maybe have avoided
because you are "too" busy to talk.  Let's promise not to forget, but let's also promise to not be
afraid.  We can use this tragedy to get motivated to make a difference.   What happened won't
destroy or shadow one of the greatest traditions in American culture–
the Bostonians are too strong for that… but it could inspire us to make more.

My friend Henri's cousins were among the victims severly injured in this tragedy. The family could use your help and support.  Please click on this link to learn more and donate. http://www.gofundme.com/CelesteandSydney

 

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An emergency responder and passerby tend to Sydney Corcoran, a Lowell High School student who was injured by shrapnel in Monday's bomb explosion at the Boston Marathon. (AP Photo/The Boston Globe, David L Ryan) Read more:

 

Love and Light to everyone in Boston,

KK

(Kara Kurcz)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

edited by J. Perrone

SURVIVING …SURVIVING

Survivor is a funny word. It has this
ring to it that implies all you need to do is earn the title and
suddenly everything is OK.

 My husband, Brian, is an easy going guy. Not much fazes him.

 

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NOTICE HE IS WEARING MY SCARF

 

I
would go as far to say that even when he was diagnosed with cancer he was practical and succumb to the
fact that most likely… he had no control of his destiny.

However, all bets were off once Brian became a "survivor". You see, when you have any major hardship happen to you, your life
becomes a fish bowl. 

 

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WHY IS EVERYONE LOOKING AT ME?!

 

At first everyone cheers as you swim in
and out of that tiny plastic castle.  You feel special. 
People enjoy nurturing you. They never forget to feed you or change
your "water". 

 

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LOOK AT US! WE ARE SO HEALTHY!!!

 

 

Then slowly the novelty wears off…

You wake up one morning to find that the world is no longer
cheering. Instead, everyone is just staring.  So you feel depressed.

 

 

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I"M A LOSER. NO ONE LOVES ME

 

If you had cancer; you might feel judged on your appearance. 
"Should you be eating that?"

 

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OMG!!! HE IS EATING MEAT!!!!!!!!!

 

 If you were mourning; you might feel people are judging
you on your ability to move on. "Is she actually dating?" "

If you were broke; you might feel people judging you
when you do something nice for yourself.  "Did you buy a new dress?" 

 

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THAT WOULD BE PRADA WITH A "P"

 

As your bowl swirls with everyone's opinions you wake up one morning to find your water cloudy. You are starving because no one has fed you in weeks.  And you start to wonder… "Is everyone just waiting for the morning they find me belly up in
the bowl???"

 

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PLEASE DONT FLUSH ME!!!!

 

So what happened? You overcame insurmountable
obstacles to earn the title of survivor. I mean you did the
unthinkable;  you beat cancer, you clawed your way out of debt, you
overcame the loss of a loved one, you got through a divorce, you lost
100 pounds now… YOU'RE looking at a toilet bowl anticipating someone will flush you!?!?!??!?

I would love to say, "People suck that is what happened!" 
However, then I would have to throw out my whole "Life into
Lemonade" stick and hit the bottle.

 

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I DID THINK ABOUT IT… FOR A SPLIT SECOND

 

Instead, lets make lemonade. (you can add vodka later if you wish)

 

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KK-TINI: 1/2 LEMON JUICED, 1 OUNCE VODKA, .5 OUNCE CHAMBORD AND A REAL FRIEND TO SHARE IT WITH

Everyone has a light inside and I believe people, like moths, are attracted to "light."  Some people have to climb mountains and swim oceans because it is a necessary part of their journey. Their light shines outward, so others can be guided. It is like a gigantic flashlight! Your life is meant to be shared with the world!

 

 

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WE DID IT! SO CAN YOU!!!!!

 

 However, when we believe
we are defined by what "this life" has put us through
instead of who we are inside…moths start eating our clothes. We allow them to poke holes in our truth and our flashlights start to dim.

 So what do you do????? Well, first it's time to change the batteries in your flashlight:)  You need to take a step back and look at WHO you
are asking to clean your fish bowl.

My guess is if they are
questioning your candy bar, they just ate two. If they are judging
how you spend money, they have a fear of being broke. If they are
smack talking your ability to laugh or love, they wish they could do
both.

Next eat a twinkie if you feel like it.  Then kindly tell them you appreciate their concern but you are a
survivor and you know how to do just that.

 

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MAKEUP GENIUS KRISTINA DUFF KNOWS HOW TO SHINE INSIDE AND OUT WITH HER ATTAGIRL ORGANIZATION!!!

 

Finally, ask them,
"What is really up your butt?"   Something is most likely bugging them and you can
shine some light on how they too, can learn to be a survivor:)

 Now…speaking of "Asses" and "Survivors" this month is Colon
Cancer Awareness month!!  WHOOO HOO! So in the spirit of
shining lights up butts….we have asked some of our fabulous celebrity friends to support the cause!

 

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STEVEN KRAMER GLICKMAN AKA GUSTAVO FROM BIG TIME RUSH KNOWS WHAT'S UP!

 

 We are happy  to support our buddies at the Colon Cancer Alliance .  
We are donating a portion of every Solas bag purchased to raise
awareness for this cause! Check out www.solasfashion.com
and listen to Stan!!!!!

 

 

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LESLIE DAVID BAKER AKA "STAN" from THE OFFICE


Now go buy a purse that will light up just like you! www.solasfashion.com

 

xoxox

KK

 

WHATS UP YOUR BUTT?

Some important information:

 

1.) Colorectal Cancer is the second leading cause of cancer death in the U.S.

2.) Although there has been a significant rise in the number of young people diagnoses with this cancer in the last 5 years recommended screenings are not until age 50.

3.)Colorectal Cancer is a slow moving cancer and if caught early has a 90% recovery rate.

4.) You can have colon cancer and feel great. Symptoms are non specific like stomach discomfort,rectal bleeding or slight blood in and around your stool.

4.) Over 9% of MEN AND WOMEN will be effected by colorectal cancer. This is not a man's disease.