believe a bumpier ride in life helps you achieve true success, as opposed to perceived success. Upon Mike’s insistence, I decided to dedicate a blog to the subject. Mike, this one’s for you.
is eaten up by perceived success. It chips away at our self esteem and, suddenly, our achievements are no longer good enough.
"Oprah". I believed in order to be considered a success, I had to be
on her show.
If I had Facebook back then, I am sure I would have received 100
"likes" from high school friends who would have thought I was really
etc… I was on Extra, E! News, Fox, but not Oprah!!!!! We were
selling thousands and thousands of bags, but I never truly celebrated because the "mothership" refused to answer my calls. Ok, that's a lie. I might have had a glass of Champagne or two (or three, lol,) but the next day I would always wake up to this little voice in my head saying, "It's not good enough. You're not good enough."
the coin of success. The head is how the world interprets your
achievements and your attachment to that perception. The tail is your
heart string. It is your calling and it’s driven by your soul, not
others'. The key to happiness is finding a way for both sides to live
harmoniously. I missed the boat on a few things, those years I was chasing
the big "O". First of all, the Katie Couric moment was not a failure.
My soul knew it was not about selling bags it, was about giving me
credibility so I could achieve my dreams. Plus, my soul really likes
making my mom happy!
never saw myself as successful. So my tail side said, "Grrrlll didn't
you learn anything?!?!? I'm about to wake your ass up!" (Cut to Oprah
ugly cry and having to start all over.)
meaning of success?" Some people had very specific goals in mind.
However, universally, people wrote about balance. Whether it was
juggling motherhood and career or work and spirituality, everyone seemed
to want to balance life's mishaps with life's achievements.
coin. We struggle with it. We feel guilty to admit we have a head side
that cares about perception. We wish we always came up tails and lived
our lives 100% driven by our hearts. I am here to say
both sides are OK. In fact, you need that balance to achieve happiness.
Just make sure your perception of things isn't clouded. It's OK to have
lofty goals or aspirations in life. It's OK to be aware of what your
neighbor or children or the world thinks of you, just don't let
it guide you. Keep it in your peripheral vision and make sure you are
always checking in with the "man in the mirror." (or should I say goddess?)